This is an unflinching look at adoption that includes the history as well as current practices of adoption and foster care, and interviews with those directly affected by it: adopted people, former foster youth, birth parents, foster parents and adoptive parents. It is a big, sometimes “difficult” read, but so necessary. This book is neither “pro” nor “anti” in its stance on adoption, just truthful. The focus is mostly on the United States but includes same and different race domestic as well as international adoptions. Adoption is too often painted as rainbows and unicorns, a fairytale, but these stories highlight the complexities in even the most ideal of adoptions. It present adoption as the paradox it is, as a lifelong journey (and one that ALWAYS begins in loss) and not a singular event. This book is for everyone, those affected by adoption, and certainly those considering adoption. Even if you think your life isn’t affected by adoption, you probably know someone whose is. Knowledge is power. When we know better, we do better. This book is a step in that direction. I commend the author on her research, on sharing her lived experience (she herself is adopted) and the many interviews she conducted. As an adopted person, I am thankful for authors like her, and I strongly recommend this book.
-SB
